Being a mother can feel like a balancing act that just won’t balance. No matter where we put our time – – into our kids, our jobs, or our homes, it just never seems like enough. There isn’t enough time in the day to do it all, to be it all. The simple fact is, motherhood is hard work.
We Don’t Have To Do It All
As women, we can get into the habit of trying to do it all. We may feel a pressure to achieve perfection. We can incorrectly think that everyone’s house is clean, the laundry is done, the meals are shopped and prepped, the kids are doing sensory activities, and all’s right with everyone else’s world. The reality, though, is that just isn’t the case.
We don’t have to do it all. It’s okay to let some activities go. It’s okay to take a break. You can ask for help. It’s even okay to say “no”.
Take Time For You
When was the last time you did something for you? The last time you sat through a meal uninterupted? When was the last time you had a good night’s sleep? When was the last time you felt appreciated? Or heard?
It can seem nearly impossible to take time for yourself when you already feel as though you don’t have enough time in your day. When you are tired, mentally and physically, you can make bad choices. If you are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, sad and stressed, you can start to question whether you are good enough as a person, or as a mother. When you are chronically overwhelmed, you may lose yourself entirely.
Put Yourself First
It is imperative to put yourself first. As a mother, as a caregiver, you need to take care of your own needs in order to take care of those that depend on you. I encourage you to find your identity. Your self can get lost in diaper changes, math homework, runny noses, temper tantrums, soccer practice and a never ending list of activities.
You can put yourself first and still be a loving mother, friend and spouse. In fact, if you put yourself first, you will be an even better mother, friend and spouse. And the best part? You’ll be able to find and enjoy YOU again.
Being a mother is challenging. Motherhood can be overwhelming. You don’t have to live a life full of chaos and tears. It’s okay to put yourself first and take some time for just you.
We all feel overwhelmed at times. It’s what we do with those feelings that matter. Take some time where you can find it. If you can’t find it, make it. You matter. Motherhood is hard work. But never forget, you matter.
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