Trust is a belief in truth, reliability and strength. It is built over time, but unfortunately can be lost in a moment. When our trust is broken, it’s a painful betrayal. When we are betrayed by a loved one, it can feel like trauma. It is possible to rebuild trust in a relationship. It takes work, and time.
Healthy Relationships
In a healthy relationship we rely on trust and honesty in order to feel safe and loved. But when trust is broken, our safety feels violated. The key to rebuild that trust in a relationship is talking openly, and honestly, about the issues in the relationship.
When speaking honestly, you don’t need to blame yourself or think “If I was a better at ‘X'”. You are worthy of love and kindness, and you deserve to be treated well.
In order to have a healthy relationship again, there needs to be trust. Trust is the foundation for meaningful relationships. But it will take time. And it will take work. Trust, as many of us know, is not to be given lightly.
Signs it may be Possible to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship
In order to begin rebuilding trust, both partners must be willing to work on the relationship. Trust will never be rebuilt if one party refuses to talk openly about the relationship.
A more difficult aspect of relationships is forgiveness. And you can’t build trust without forgiveness. It can be one of the more difficult aspects of rebuilding any relationship. Forgiveness isn’t about telling your partner “It’s okay”. Because it’s not okay. Forgiveness, however, is about letting go of the anger inside you to find your inner peace.
When we hold onto anger and resentment, we are blocking our ability to forgive and release those negative emotions. When we hold onto anger, we end up hurting ourselves.
If you’re having a hard time letting go of anger, just know that it’s okay. You are entitled to feel how you feel.
While it may be difficult, it can help you move past the anger if you look at the problem from a different perspective – – try to view the situation through your partners eyes. It’s not easy. But sometimes it can help.
I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage “Time heals all wounds.” Unfortunately, that’s not exactly true. While time helps, you must work to repair wounds. Talk to your friends, your family, your partner. Talking to a therapist can help you work through your situation and help you evaluate where to go from here. You’ve been through a trauma, and it’s entirely normal to feel angry and hurt.
In order to heal, you must work through the past and confront the pain. You can feel happy again. You can learn to trust again. Maybe with your partner, or maybe not. The decision is yours.
Counseling for Women and Couples in Washington, PA
Has your trust been broken in your relationship? If you’re struggling with feelings of anger, resentment, and betrayal, counseling can help. You don’t have to work through this pain alone. You can feel happiness again.
If you have any questions or would like to get to know us a little better, please call (724) 503-6670 or email us at admin@inthenowcounseling.org. You can also reach us on Facebook and Instagram, too.
