Most of us look forward to vacations, pay raises, or long weekends. It’s completely natural to anticipate the big, exciting, events that happen in our lives. However, when we’re so focused on the next big thing we end up missing all the little nuances in between. It’s important to appreciate the nuances, the little things. That’s where life happens.
Do you put all your happiness in the big ticket items of life – – New car, bigger house, fancy vacations, promotions, etc.? Once you have the big house, or the new car, or the new job title, then what? We naturally focus on the next big thing.
The problem is that we are missing life. Life isn’t made up of a handful of big events. Life is our everyday. It’s what we see, hear, feel and do on a daily basis.
Don’t Miss the Moments in Between
When the big moment comes and goes, then what? We can be left feeling let down, sad, or even depressed. When “it’s” over, what now? The cycle repeats and we start focusing on the next big thing, again.
What about everything that was missed in between the big moments?
Did you hear your children’s laughter while they played? Or were you on your phone wishing your time away?
Do you feel crisp air at night while the seasons are changing? Or is it just something that happens?
Life is happening all around us. We only have to slow down to see it, to appreciate it.
Appreciate the Little Things and Find Joy
If we stop living solely for the big moments, we can free ourselves to appreciate the little things that life brings. Go for a walk, get into nature, breathe in the air, and feel the sun on your face.
When we adjust our focus, the little things become priorities.
My first cup of coffee in morning brings me peace, calm and clarity. I could look at it as “just a cup of coffee”. But to me, it’s a little thing that has turned into a daily priority that I look forward to and enjoy. That first cup of coffee fills me with joy.
Shift your focus to the simple pleasures in life. Odds are they are all around you.
For me, it’s coffee, family, walks on the trail, and beautiful weather (not necessarily in that order).
Hold your child’s hand as you walk to school and listen, really listen, as they talk. Sit down to lunch and taste your meal. Appreciate the moment you are in. Live for the present.
Therapy for Women in Canonsburg, PA
We can feel as though there isn’t a moment for us, especially as women and mothers. It can be hard to appreciate the little things when you feel like life is weighting you down.
If you’ve been putting yourself last, it’s time to make a change. Please call us at (724) 503-6670 or email us at admin@inthenowcounseling.org.
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