We form an idea of our own personal value from an early age. We learn this value from our family – – from our caregivers and those around us. The best way to build confidence in a child is to start at home, and start early.
Confidence in a Child
Love, support and parental respect help to build confidence in a child. Parents can teach confidence and self-worth by extending kindness to themselves and those around them.
Teaching gratitude from an early age helps children expand their own knowledge on value and meaning.
Confidence in a child is not a one way street. You can help your child continue to build confidence into adulthood.
Build Confidence in a Child Through Their Voice
It’s easy to tell a child what to wear, or what not to do, how to act, how to sit, etc.
It can be helpful at times to take a step back and give a child an opinion in the matter. Red cup or blue? Homework now or after dinner? Community college or student loans?
Voicing their opinions and letting a child choose gives them power. Allow children to make age appropriate choices.
Each day you can find ways to let a child make decisions and feel heard and respected as a result. With a little effort, you’ll see their confidence grow.
Give Your Child’s Work Merit
When you give your child a chore or task, do you let their work stand? Or do you “fix” it?
If you have your child fold laundry, do you refold the items?
If your child is supposed to clean a bathroom or mow the lawn, do you go back over and tidy it up to your standard?
When you give a child a task, and then complete it “better,” you send the message they aren’t good enough.
You can build your child’s confidence through chores, but you have to let their work be their work. Don’t fix it. Don’t adjust it. Let them see their value and praise the effort.
Build Confidence in a Child Through Love
The easiest way to build a child’s confidence is by showing them love. Don’t wait for a child to beg for your attention. Ask him/her to play with you, first. Sit down and start drawing. Then invite your toddler to join you.
Invite your teen out to a movie or dinner.
Make the first more and show your child they are worthy of your attention. Give him/her positive attention before it’s asked for in a negative way.
When we build a child’s confidence within our homes, it can fuel them to take on life’s challenges outside our homes, too.
Therapist for Kids and Teenagers in Canonsburg, PA
There is a lot of pressure today for little kids, teenagers, and parents, as well. We understand the pressures kids are under these days and we are here to help.
If you think your child could benefit from talking, or if you have any questions, please call (724) 503-6670 or email us at admin@inthenowcounseling.org.
You can also get to know us more: Ashley, Maura, and Lucas.
Our therapy office is located in Canonsburg, PA. If you have any concerns for your child, please don’t hesitate to contact us! We are here for you and your child.
